Posts Tagged ‘families’

Are You a Selfish Woman?

Wednesday, January 9th, 2013

“How do you get over the feeling that it is selfish to put yourself first?” I was asked this question during a self-care workshop I was facilitating.  My response?  As women, we are natural caregivers and nurturers.  Many of us take care of everyone else first, with every intention of taking care of ourselves too.  But when all is said and done, at the end of the day we are left with no energy to do anything but fall into bed.

Does that sound like you?  On many days, that sounds like me!  Although my sons are now all in college, there are still things that I do for them, even when they are away from home.  I work outside of the home and I am building a non-profit organization.  How do I get over the feeling that it is selfish to put myself first?  Or maybe a better question is, “How do I actually manage to put myself first?”

I realized quite some time ago that if I didn’t start putting myself first, I may not be around long enough to put other people’s needs ahead of my own.  The fact is, if you are not emotionally, physically and spiritually healthy, you can’t take good care of anyone else.  How can you take good care of someone when you are tired, grumpy, or stressed out?  If you don’t love yourself first, it is very hard to truly love anyone else appropriately.

If you love yourself, you will make the time for self-care.  And if you don’t make the time to do it, sometimes the time is forced upon you, for example, via a health crisis or some other event.  My opportunity to focus on myself was presented to me by God in the form of being laid off from my job in March 2004. (more…)

STRESS & THE HOLIDAYS

Friday, December 21st, 2012

For many of us, the holiday season can be very stressful. Stress diminishes productivity, motivation, and concentration.  It contributes to illness, including heart disease, high blood pressure, and strokes; and has a negative impact on the immune system. Cortisol (commonly referred to as the stress hormone) is a hormone released in the body during times of physical and psychological stress. Excess cortisol contributes to the conditions described above, as well as hard-to-banish belly fat.

Try the following strategies to reduce stress during the holidays and throughout the year:

  • Eat healthy and don’t skip meals
  • Exercise regularly
  • Enjoy time away from normal routines by spending time with family and friends
  • Breathe, relax, laugh, and have fun!

What do YOU do to keep your stress levels in check during the holiday season?

Healthy Holiday Eating

Wednesday, November 21st, 2012

Simple Food Swaps for Healthy Holiday Eating

Maybe you’ve been able to drop a few pounds recently or hold your weight steady by eating more healthfully and exercising a bit. Are you worried that seasonal indulgences might sabotage your efforts? You’re not alone.

The holidays are coming, and you know what that means—sit-down dinners with heaping platters of meat, gravy and sauce-laden vegetables, and buffet tables so filled with cheese-topped appetizers, mayonnaise-soaked salads and rich desserts that you can’t see the tablecloth underneath. Gifts of irresistible candy, cookies, pies and cakes add to the temptations. No wonder our best intentions to eat in moderation crumble faster than fresh gingerbread!

De-stress for success

Does it have to be this way? There are scientists who say it doesn’t, but only if you keep a careful notebook record of every morsel you eat. Just imagine how much fun you’ll have at holiday parties, balancing a plate and drink while you try to scribble, “one pig, no blanket, extra mustard.” Forget the notebook and de-stress to help keep holiday eating healthy, advises Jo-Anne Rizzotto, M.Ed., R.D., L.D.N., C.D.E., a registered and licensed dietitian at the Joslin Diabetes Center, Harvard Medical School, Boston. “Take time for yourself, even for just a few minutes,” she says. “Make the holidays a conscious thought.” By doing a little pre-planning, “you may be able to make different decisions.”

Evaluate your traditional family favorites and decide to serve just the must-haves this year. Then perform what Rizzotto calls “recipe reconstruction” to lighten the ingredients in each. “Alter the fat or sugar content a bit,” she says. That reduces calories and “you can still make them taste good.”

A few ideas for turning popular holiday foods healthier:

  • Use olive oil and herbs instead of cream or cheese in veggie dishes.
  • Make green bean casserole with low-fat or dairy-free sour cream;
  • Replace sausage, white bread and butter in stuffing with nuts, whole grains and broth or water (if you can’t give up the sausage, opt for the turkey or chicken version).
  • Choose for sweet potatoes with cinnaman and spices (maybe add a drizzle of agave nectar) over scalloped white ones with butter and cream

If you’re worried about your guests’ reactions, Rizzotto adds, “find an ally in the family, someone who can support your approach.” With your sister or cousin backing you up, it may be easier to make changes.

Emphasize the good stuff

Recent research shows what we’ve all long known, that fruits, vegetables and whole grains are great for our bodies. For your festive recipes, choose foods that do more than just taste good. For instance, pecans and other nuts rich in monounsaturated fat lower bad cholesterol, while peanuts reduce gallstone disease risk in women.

“Nuts are a far better snack than fat-free pretzels. You’re getting antioxidants, which are better for you than a mouthful of starch,” says nutritionist Lauren Swann, M.S., R.D., co-author of the Black Family Dinner Quilt Cookbook (Tradery House, 1993). Be sure to buy unsalted nuts, she recommends, or you may have trouble controlling your snacking.

Cranberries, blueberries and lingonberries are strong antioxidants and have cancer-preventive action. Broccoli, cauliflower and other cabbage family vegetables also reduce cancer risk. Even chocolate and cocoa may benefit your cardiovascular system. (more…)